So apparently my significant other doesn't want me to have male friends. Huh? I am a grown woman (well, getting there) how you gonna tell me who I can and can't be friends with!? He says he's a jealous person and he knows this so basically, no I can't have male friends. So we go back and forth about it, but not for too long because I don't even want to go there right at that moment.
This leaves me feeling torn. I don't want to be a hypocrite, because I have already said to him that I don't beleive that most men and women can be friends. It's not that I don't think it can't happen, but I just know from personal experience that it's not a good idea. With the exception of one or two people, all of the men I know are because I've either had something with them romantically, they wanted to and I didn't, or they messed with one of my friends. Those are the only men I really know and call "friends", so I can see why my man wouldn't want me being friends with them. Plus - not to toot my own horn or anything, it's just nature - if I proposed the idea of gettin down with the get down (you know what I mean) I can't think of too many of my "friends" that would decline. With that said, I didn't really have a strong argument as to why I should be able to hang out with these guys. I know that it's basically in my control as to whether something happens with them or not, but I can respect where he's coming from. I told him I would still be hanging out with them in groups though - not just me and another guy, but I don't really do that too much now.
See - this is why I enjoyed being single. I could do whatever I wanted and not have to take anoybody else's feelings into consideration. Of course now he can't have any female friends either, just to make it fair. Not that he can't have them, but he can't go out with them. What's a shame is I honestly don't even care, but hey - If I can't, he can't either! This is gonna be tough.
5 comments:
men and women are friends because women decide not to fuck them. point blank. with a few exceptions, i can see where you both are coming from. unconditional trust is a scary thing to have blindly. in a relationship, your man's feeling are important regardless of how stupid they seem. so hang in there and get used to it. hahaahahaa. call me if you need to vent cuz God knows i ring your phone off the hook.
That is the truth. I guess he doesn't even want the option to present itself should he start to mess up one day, and I got got some willing d*ck on reserve.
I dont know what to say. I mean, rik dude said he can understand having a male friend you had something with and then realized that it was nothing ever gonna be and it never happened again. I do believe that we hold the control in the get down department but then so be it. You dont hang out with these people now because you live in a different state. But it would be common at least once a month to do so. Dont give your male friends up for your man, if they good friends.
But since you only have truely one male friends shout out to darnell. Then you cool, get rid of K, keep, C, and E, and R around, they good people.
Don't ever shout him out like that!! LMAO!!!!
i know haaahahaaa and darnell in a different state too. the rest are cool but liabilities to your relationship, so i would just ease on down the road. you gotta do whats best for your future. we can all still hit up the club together though cuz it's a small world and you never know who is going to be where.
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